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I would reply that the adults in that case should demonstrate their own character by recognizing that teenagers are humans with emotions¹ who get frustrated and

I would reply that the adults in that case should demonstrate their own character by recognizing that teenagers are humans with emotions¹ who get frustrated and make mistakes. And that a mistake that doesn't really harm anyone (an F said in conversation with a friend) merits a discussion in the worst, not a dismissal dropped like a bomb. --- ¹Maybe even more so than the adults.

anaerobicover 5y ago
Although to be exact I would not even call this any "mistake". It is simply human. But I do understand that others might consider it to be so.
taylodl 5y ago
Having worked in several youth organizations and youth sports for the past 30 years, I bet what actually happened is this kid has been "problematic", the adults have been trying to do right by the kid, and this was the final straw. I've seen that happen. The act resulting in a kid getting dismissed from an activity in and of itself isn't egregious when considered in isolation. It's all the other stuff going on preceding that act that caused the response. Obviously I don't know the details of this particular case, but it wouldn't surprise if that is what happened here. It's typically the way such things go.
- not2b 5y ago
  Sorry, not buying it. If the kid had a pattern of problematic behavior they could have said that she was being dismissed for behavior that took place at team practices or events. But they didn't. They are saying that it was for the Snapchat rant. If they had something else, they could have avoided the court fight.
- dls2016 5y ago
  I would place more money on her being of lower socio-economic class than her peers. These "zero-tolerance" policies are rarely applied equally across class.
- vorpalhex 5y ago
  This is why the phrase "problematic" is useless and should be removed from the human vocabulary. Are you suggesting the teenager was difficult to deal with - or actively breaking rules? Was she being a bully or just not fitting in well? You can't just label someone "problematic" and get rid of them for a minor infraction without having to support that label with something meaningful - otherwise the behavior is arbitrary.

anaerobicover 5y ago

Although to be exact I would not even call this any "mistake". It is simply human. But I do understand that others might consider it to be so.

taylodl 5y ago

Having worked in several youth organizations and youth sports for the past 30 years, I bet what actually happened is this kid has been "problematic", the adults have been trying to do right by the kid, and this was the final straw. I've seen that happen. The act resulting in a kid getting dismissed from an activity in and of itself isn't egregious when considered in isolation. It's all the other stuff going on preceding that act that caused the response. Obviously I don't know the details of this particular case, but it wouldn't surprise if that is what happened here. It's typically the way such things go.

not2b 5y ago
Sorry, not buying it. If the kid had a pattern of problematic behavior they could have said that she was being dismissed for behavior that took place at team practices or events. But they didn't. They are saying that it was for the Snapchat rant. If they had something else, they could have avoided the court fight.
dls2016 5y ago
I would place more money on her being of lower socio-economic class than her peers. These "zero-tolerance" policies are rarely applied equally across class.
vorpalhex 5y ago
This is why the phrase "problematic" is useless and should be removed from the human vocabulary. Are you suggesting the teenager was difficult to deal with - or actively breaking rules? Was she being a bully or just not fitting in well? You can't just label someone "problematic" and get rid of them for a minor infraction without having to support that label with something meaningful - otherwise the behavior is arbitrary.