The best way to get a raise is to switch, but the side-effect cost goes up as you get older, especially when you're in "family, house" territory. Remote work he

The best way to get a raise is to switch, but the side-effect cost goes up as you get older, especially when you're in "family, house" territory. Remote work helps enormously with this, but there are other issues as well. To wit, a new job always comes with new social group and almost always with new tech, and both have a learning curve that can be quite stressful - and, hopefully, transient. There's also risk, like when you try to move a tree: sometimes the roots just don't take to the new soil, no matter how prepared you are or how good your analysis was. You ran the experiment, and you missed something and/or got unlucky, and theme's the breaks -- which is fine when you're single, and absolutely not fine when you have dependents. Hence: the traditionally risk-averse family man. It's not cowardice, it's love mixed with reason.