A sincere written apology should be 3. You needn’t misrepresent your own intentions to do this, but it does require thinking about the specific harms you have c

A sincere written apology should be 3. You needn’t misrepresent your own intentions to do this, but it does require thinking about the specific harms you have caused (perhaps unintentionally) and enumerating them in a way that doesn’t minimize their import. That is the anatomy of a true apology. It requires taking the other perspective as fact.