I don't think its that strange. Its just a side effect of those people who are and think of themselves as "from" where they grew up or first moved to projecting

I don't think its that strange. Its just a side effect of those people who are and think of themselves as "from" where they grew up or first moved to projecting their way of thinking onto others. It's easier for them to shoehorn their version of your story/situation into their mental framework than it is to adapt their mental framework to handle your story/situation. I still catch myself unecessarily projecting my way of thinking onto situations which distorts what is actually going on or loses information, just because its easier to do - not because its correct or fair. They can misunderstand you, but they don't get to decide how you define 'home' to yourself, even if they discredit you.