> However, I and most of my friends have had good results with combinations of sleep training and adjusting our own sleep schedules for additional buffer. Bing

> However, I and most of my friends have had good results with combinations of sleep training and adjusting our own sleep schedules for additional buffer. Bingo. Also don't insist on both being awake for every nighttime wake period and use a shift system, plus offset your go-to-bed times, and then, unless you're very unlucky or your newborn has some kind of illness, you're looking at 6ish hours of sleep a night with at least one night a week of 8+ hours (when you can each give the other a "sleep make-up night" to sleep in basically indefinitely, probably on a weekend). Sleep train right, and you're gonna be doing this for 3 months, tops. They should be down to one feeding a night around IIRC 1 month, so it gets way better then. 3 for 3 on having our kids sleeping through the night (as in, we only have to wake up and do something if there's an unusual situation, and aren't woken up at all at least 6 weeks a night) by no later than 10 weeks. I believe some people do get unlucky and their kids just won't sleep through the night that early, but it's quite rare (again, unless your kid's sick, that changes everything). Everyone we see having trouble with it is one or more of: 1) keeping their kid in the same room or same bed (no judgement on co-sleeping for other reasons, but continuing it past the first couple weeks seems, anecdotally, strongly correlated with kids who still won't sleep through the night at 6 months and beyond, and have trouble going to sleep in the first place), 2) pouncing on their baby the second they make a sound at night, even past the first couple weeks, at which point you should stop that and gradually increase your response times to waking/crying unless you want to train your kid to wake up a lot (by rewarding waking with attention, and not letting them learn how to transition between sleep cycles), 3) unable to handle "cry it out" for the 2-3 nights it'll probably take to finish the process, if you've followed the steps you should have to correctly reduce how often they wake by ~8 weeks or so (if you haven't, it might take a lot longer, but... just don't do that)