As a parent I need both my own down time and time alone with my spouse to feel mentally healthy too, and that is usually after they are in bed and asleep. Maybe

As a parent I need both my own down time and time alone with my spouse to feel mentally healthy too, and that is usually after they are in bed and asleep. Maybe more than 6 hours is easy, but it's usually less than 8 if I manage to do all my normal expected activities. Often I do sleep instead now though as I quickly realized my temperament is only agreeable with enough of it as I age, and the other things I need to do suffer. Others may not make the same choice, and it's not a wrong to prioritize other important aspects of mental and physical well being.