Dating sites - as they are designed - are a game that most men will never win. The best option is to not play it at all or play it by your rules (I remember to

Dating sites - as they are designed - are a game that most men will never win. The best option is to not play it at all or play it by your rules (I remember to read a comment where a fellow HNer assumed to artificially inflate his Instagram followers and getting an huge payoff). By playing the game, you allow your counterpart to choose instictively/optimally and - digitally and anonymously - reject an huge pool of non-optimal choices. Rejecting in the analog world is difficult and time intensive. This precipitates involuntary/unoptimal choices and the odds of a match for the bottom 80% skyrocket.