im surprised the stripe DID happily collect the shipping fees, then only to freeze the money as soon as the vendor decided to use them? do they always work like

im surprised the stripe DID happily collect the shipping fees, then only to freeze the money as soon as the vendor decided to use them? do they always work like this - collect as much as possible just to screw the business over? even me, the backer feels screwed, thats MY money, that i want to pay to the project I decided. Who are you to intervene here?