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Leftfield, but I recommend a book “the rock warrior’s way”. It is about mental training for climbers... which is all about facing uncontrollably hard, unpredict

Leftfield, but I recommend a book “the rock warrior’s way”. It is about mental training for climbers... which is all about facing uncontrollably hard, unpredictable and potentially dangerous situations, and thriving in them. As well as other suggestions in this thread, some that the book might suggest would include: - embrace what you cannot control. You cannot control it any more for mentally grappling with it. Instead, build a mindset of being OK living with adversity. - think of your life as choices, not responses to unavoidable. Sure, life forces us to do things. But really we do have choices, just we don’t like them. You could quit your job and do nothing, and run out of money. It’s not life forcing you to work, it’s you choosing to be employed. You’re choosing the best option for you, not the only one. - learn to recognise the fight or flight instinct. It is rarely a good advisor, and with training, you can see through it. Quite often things are not as bleak as our mind paints it. - build goals that you achievable in your current adversity. Make it about something you learn, about yourself or the world or your area of expertise etc. It makes the problem be on your terms, with achievable success, and not indentured slavery. I know it sounds a bit like magical thinking, but I confirm it works, for both life and climbing.

alexanderjchun 6y ago
Thank you, I'll take a look. When I was younger I used to lean towards Buddhist philosophy and Stoicism. This kind of reminds me of that. As I got older and toxic masculinity became trendy, I started to think that the old way of "it is what it is" and "man up" weren't healthy, but lately I've been thinking that I was better off that way. Things were a lot simpler and instead of dwelling or brooding, I just kept moving forward. I feel sometimes people are better off not knowing the variety of mental illnesses or dysfunctions out there. It's too easy to get into the trap of "is there something wrong with me?" Even when there is something a little bit off, the time agonizing about it can be a waste of time especially if there's nothing that can be done about it.

alexanderjchun 6y ago

Thank you, I'll take a look. When I was younger I used to lean towards Buddhist philosophy and Stoicism. This kind of reminds me of that. As I got older and toxic masculinity became trendy, I started to think that the old way of "it is what it is" and "man up" weren't healthy, but lately I've been thinking that I was better off that way. Things were a lot simpler and instead of dwelling or brooding, I just kept moving forward. I feel sometimes people are better off not knowing the variety of mental illnesses or dysfunctions out there. It's too easy to get into the trap of "is there something wrong with me?" Even when there is something a little bit off, the time agonizing about it can be a waste of time especially if there's nothing that can be done about it.