> And the first step is the ability to ask a fair share of the value one is generating. I feel like you missed my point. I am talking about getting into a empl

> And the first step is the ability to ask a fair share of the value one is generating. I feel like you missed my point. I am talking about getting into a employer-employee relationship that you can feel good about. Compensation is obviously a huge component of that and you should absolutely make sure it's what you need and deserve. The point I am making is that if your relationship with your employer is so weak that you're walking out because of what happened with a single bonus, then you weren't in a good relationship to begin with. > I think one can be unfair in the way one is generous. Yes and it doesn't matter. The example that Ray Dalio uses in his book is this - the company office is in Connecticut and a lot of employees commuted from NYC. So at some point Ray bought a bus to shuttle employees back and forth. Sounds like a purely good thing, right? Well, some Connecticut-based employee complained - the NYC-based people got a "gift" in convenience and cost of their commute, so he thought that Connecticut people should get something to improve their commute too (ignoring the point that their commute was never as bad to begin with). Ray points out that this is a huge entitlement - just because you gave a gift to someone, doesn't mean others deserve. The point is - you can't manage your company and your life to meet the whims of the most unreasonably entitles. And on the flip side, the less unreasonable expectations you have, the happier you will be.