Frankly the idea of a friend of mine getting that kind of scratch for referring me to a job would put a bad taste in my mouth and poison the friendship. Why?

Frankly the idea of a friend of mine getting that kind of scratch for referring me to a job would put a bad taste in my mouth and poison the friendship. Why? I'd really be happy for them. I'd require them to take me out to dinner, but I'd be happy about it. If your friend referred someone else to this job that you didn't know, would that be better? What if you would have liked to have been referred to this job (learning about it post mortem), but your friend referred someone else instead, would that be better?