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> I also learned how to emulate empathy, Please don't. I know a guy who does the same. It comes across as utterly condescending.
by guenthert 6y ago
> I also learned how to emulate empathy,
Please don't. I know a guy who does the same. It comes across as utterly condescending.
- bawolff 6y agoYou know that the people failing to do it, do it badly. You have no idea how many people in your life succesfully do it. (Survivorship bias)
- Aloha 6y agohen I fail to do it correctly, I get immediate negative feedback. If I fail to do it at all, I get immediate negative feedback - its part of success for me. I do genuinely care about people, I just cannot for the life of me understand why things upset others. Failing to do it, makes me less employable, and less successful socially.
- nate_meurer 6y agoEmpathy is very much a learned skill. "Pretending" to care is a good way for me to get someone's attention and learn a bit of their story, and then find something to relate to.