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I have a similar story. I learned at all early age the only thing appearing like the smartest guy in the room was good for was paining a target on your back. I
by Aloha 6y ago
I have a similar story.
I learned at all early age the only thing appearing like the smartest guy in the room was good for was paining a target on your back. I also learned how to emulate empathy, it's not perfect, but it makes up for the natural broken/missing wiring in my head.
Also early in my career I talked my way out of several jobs, You might have the best ideas in the world, but if powers that be don't want to hear them, don't belabor the matter, give your suggestions and move on.
I started out too in customer support, 20 years later I'm making an engineers salary, with an engineering title, which isn't too bad for a drop out.
The best advice on jobs I have, take a bad shitty job that's good for your resume, work there till you have the book experience to work someplace else, rinse and repeat,
- guenthert 6y ago> I also learned how to emulate empathy, Please don't. I know a guy who does the same. It comes across as utterly condescending.
- bawolff 6y agoYou know that the people failing to do it, do it badly. You have no idea how many people in your life succesfully do it. (Survivorship bias)
- Aloha 6y agohen I fail to do it correctly, I get immediate negative feedback. If I fail to do it at all, I get immediate negative feedback - its part of success for me. I do genuinely care about people, I just cannot for the life of me understand why things upset others. Failing to do it, makes me less employable, and less successful socially.
- nate_meurer 6y agoEmpathy is very much a learned skill. "Pretending" to care is a good way for me to get someone's attention and learn a bit of their story, and then find something to relate to.