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I wonder if you use the word creep really broadly; e.g. to include people that make you uncomfortable. Many/most of those people, it seems to me, mean well but

by xpe 6y ago

I wonder if you use the word creep really broadly; e.g. to include people that make you uncomfortable. Many/most of those people, it seems to me, mean well but have difficulty connecting with you in the way you are used to. Many of those people have a bunch of insecurities, burdens, or even mental health concerns. I don't think it is useful to call those people creeps. Some people are certainly toxic in the context of certain relationships or cultures, I get that. If someone is using you without reciprocating, there are words for that, but I don't tend to use 'creep'. Anyhow, I hope we can offer constructive (actionable) feedback to the OP.

bawolff 6y ago
> I wonder if you use the word creep really broadly; e.g. to include people that make you uncomfortable. Isn't that the normal definition? I guess i agree that creep is a deregatory word and not really helpful in this context. At the same time, intentionally obfuscating who you are in order to trick someone into interacting with you against their will is not ok behaviour, and well within what most people consider "creepy". Possibly even crosses the line into harrasment. > Many/most of those people, it seems to me, mean well but have difficulty connecting with you in the way you are used to. Many of those people have a bunch of insecurities, burdens, or even mental health concerns. That's hard, but ultimately doesn't excuse actions that negatively impact other people.
- xpe 6y ago
  There are people that I am uncomfortable with that I don't call creeps. Just take physical proximity for example. I know some close talkers. I find it awkward but not creepy. Various cultures have varying degrees of recognizing personal space.
Wowfunhappy 6y ago
> Many/most of those people, it seems to me, mean well but have difficulty connecting with you in the way you are used to. Many of those people have a bunch of insecurities, burdens, or even mental health concerns. And I wouldn’t hire them. That’s the point OP was trying to make.
- cercatrova 6y ago
  Exactly. It might not be their fault but that is not an excuse for me to hire them, it is not my prerogative to give the benefit of the doubt especially when so many other job applicants exist.

by xpe 6y ago

bawolff 6y ago

> I wonder if you use the word creep really broadly; e.g. to include people that make you uncomfortable. Isn't that the normal definition? I guess i agree that creep is a deregatory word and not really helpful in this context. At the same time, intentionally obfuscating who you are in order to trick someone into interacting with you against their will is not ok behaviour, and well within what most people consider "creepy". Possibly even crosses the line into harrasment. > Many/most of those people, it seems to me, mean well but have difficulty connecting with you in the way you are used to. Many of those people have a bunch of insecurities, burdens, or even mental health concerns. That's hard, but ultimately doesn't excuse actions that negatively impact other people.

xpe 6y ago
There are people that I am uncomfortable with that I don't call creeps. Just take physical proximity for example. I know some close talkers. I find it awkward but not creepy. Various cultures have varying degrees of recognizing personal space.

Wowfunhappy 6y ago

> Many/most of those people, it seems to me, mean well but have difficulty connecting with you in the way you are used to. Many of those people have a bunch of insecurities, burdens, or even mental health concerns. And I wouldn’t hire them. That’s the point OP was trying to make.

cercatrova 6y ago
Exactly. It might not be their fault but that is not an excuse for me to hire them, it is not my prerogative to give the benefit of the doubt especially when so many other job applicants exist.