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Hi. Gay dude here. Please don't silence the voices calling my community out for bad behavior. There is a reason to have empathy for those who struggle with pro
by torstenvl 6y ago
Hi. Gay dude here. Please don't silence the voices calling my community out for bad behavior.
There is a reason to have empathy for those who struggle with promiscuity and substance abuse. How long can you be told that your sex life belongs in the gutter and you don't deserve love, after all, before you begin to believe it yourself?
But there isn't a reason to ignore those problems. They lead to social isolation and death for countless of us. We need the social structures, social support, and social expectations of stability and sobriety. The lack of these things leaves a trail of STIs, T overdoses, and abject loneliness in its wake.
- vidarh 6y agoThere's a way to call it out, and it's with substantive comments like yours talking about the problem. On HN at least it's not with a one liner that stereotypes a whole group of people with drug use and irresponsible behaviour like the now-dead comment did. I for one flagged that comment not because it called out the problem, but for how it did it without contributing anything useful.
- zozbot234 6y ago> Please don't silence the voices calling my community out for bad behavior. Bad behavior should of course be called out, but there's no need to reference harmful stereotypes such as a supposed "gay (or 'homosexual') community". Many people with a same-sex orientation do not engage in problematic behavior of any sort.
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- kickout 6y agoNot sure if you're replying to me or the flagged comment, but I have no issues with anyone's sexual identity or choices. I downvoted the flagged comment because judging from the tone, that commenter DID have a problem with it.