> It may even result in harassment. Haha, I don't know why, but as soon as I read that sentence, I thought "Is this Doreen Michele?" and checked your username

> It may even result in harassment. Haha, I don't know why, but as soon as I read that sentence, I thought "Is this Doreen Michele?" and checked your username and it was! Something unique about your writing. I used to have a lot of these kinds of concerns about how I'm perceived and in hindsight it held me back and I regret things I didn't do because of it. Now I have achieved things that are clearly respectable and I don't feel any need to prove myself. Instead, I'm happy to look like a fool. I also have modest enough ambitions that I don't need to worry about the consequences of people's perceptions for things like promotions or other opportunities. I create my own opportunities.