You don't get to insult people and then tell them not to take it seriously. That is not how life works. If you don't mean something, don't say it. Instead of

You don't get to insult people and then tell them not to take it seriously. That is not how life works. If you don't mean something, don't say it. Instead of apologizing, you've now blamed the person you've insulted, for being insulted. If you're going to treat me this way, you're going to treat other people in this community this way. And that is a problem.