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> this is one of those things that those who haven't experienced trauma first hand tend to dismiss. So do many of those who did. Having experienced a trauma do
by qwerty456127 6y ago
> this is one of those things that those who haven't experienced trauma first hand tend to dismiss.
So do many of those who did. Having experienced a trauma doesn't imply even remembering it, let alone being consciously aware that was a trauma, still actively affecting you.
- float4 6y ago> Having experienced a trauma doesn't imply even remembering it I've even seen the same thing happen in people who beat their depression. A few friends of mine were depressed in the past 5 years and are doing well now. However, they are having a very hard time understanding and helping a currently depressed friend. They know this friend is depressed, they see the signs, they have talked about it, but because they themselves are not suffering from depression right now they are genuinely having a hard time understanding it. They find it incredibly difficult to not blame their friend for not calling back, "being lazy", etc.
- bashinator 6y agoHaving a deep depression is, if not exactly traumatic, certainly something that I’ve blocked out of my psyche in the same way.
- Delk 6y agoI suspect that might be at least partially because, in some cases or for some people, getting out of a deep depression might involve kind of disowning or denying the kinds of emotional states and thinking that were part of the depression. If the depression was hard enough, it could be that one doesn't want to feel them again, and genuinely understanding a feeling requires feeling it at least in some way. This is just a hunch, based on personal observations, not any kind of psychological theory.