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It seems like you may be indexing on a reaction that either doesn't exist, or attributing a response from individuals as if it were coming from "everybody". In

It seems like you may be indexing on a reaction that either doesn't exist, or attributing a response from individuals as if it were coming from "everybody". In the latter case, it sounds like you've adopted the right mentality, which is to let the ball be on their court if they don't want to believe in you. Unless it's actually doing you from doing something you want to do, it doesn't really matter.

ChrisMarshallNY 6y ago
Oh, I'm not doing that whole "anecdotal evidence indicates totality" thing, but it has happened enough, that I've decided that I'm best off, being my own advocate. I actually found a company that worked with me, for 27 years. I did not find them to be as gratifying a venue as I'd have wanted, but they did have a similar set of values, and we were able to find common ground. I found that having folks that appreciated my personal values was important. They paid well enough, and actually treated me with a lot of respect. I think they made some unfortunate choices, as the time went by, and I did my best to help them through the consequences of those choices, because doing stuff like that is how my value system works. I don't "cut and run." It was appreciated, but I don't think it was enough to make that much of a difference. Long story; tears, laughter, joy, despair, etc. That stability was extremely valuable to me. It allowed me to set things up, so I am in the position I'm in, now. I can't even imagine what it would have been like, if I had spent my career in two-year stints, like everyone does now. It also allowed me to work on some side projects that have been quite successful, in their own rights. None have been monetarily profitable; but they weren't meant to be. I like to help people help people. It has been interesting (at first, infuriating, but now, amusing), watching people ignore my bona fides. I happen to have a pretty vast trove of open-source material (see "side projects," above). It's really not difficult to do. All you need to do is click on a link. It takes to to my SO Story, which has a chronologically-sorted history of my work since 1987.

ChrisMarshallNY 6y ago

Oh, I'm not doing that whole "anecdotal evidence indicates totality" thing, but it has happened enough, that I've decided that I'm best off, being my own advocate. I actually found a company that worked with me, for 27 years. I did not find them to be as gratifying a venue as I'd have wanted, but they did have a similar set of values, and we were able to find common ground. I found that having folks that appreciated my personal values was important. They paid well enough, and actually treated me with a lot of respect. I think they made some unfortunate choices, as the time went by, and I did my best to help them through the consequences of those choices, because doing stuff like that is how my value system works. I don't "cut and run." It was appreciated, but I don't think it was enough to make that much of a difference. Long story; tears, laughter, joy, despair, etc. That stability was extremely valuable to me. It allowed me to set things up, so I am in the position I'm in, now. I can't even imagine what it would have been like, if I had spent my career in two-year stints, like everyone does now. It also allowed me to work on some side projects that have been quite successful, in their own rights. None have been monetarily profitable; but they weren't meant to be. I like to help people help people. It has been interesting (at first, infuriating, but now, amusing), watching people ignore my bona fides. I happen to have a pretty vast trove of open-source material (see "side projects," above). It's really not difficult to do. All you need to do is click on a link. It takes to to my SO Story, which has a chronologically-sorted history of my work since 1987.