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>And the last thing I want to add is, you won’t have fun doing any of the above stuff. It’s never going to be fun and it never is fun for anyone. The only joy y

>And the last thing I want to add is, you won’t have fun doing any of the above stuff. It’s never going to be fun and it never is fun for anyone. The only joy you’ll get is at the very end when you succeed. You still haven't understood the perspective of people with ADHD. They know all of this intellectually (and depending on age) they have tried more systems, mental models, techniques, strategies, tricks and hacks than you can ever imagine. This is not something that you can "tough your way" through, or all of this being harsh on myself would have amounted to something. Your example, with reading just one word a day and the compound effect of repeating that behaviour regularly, hinges on some "axiom" that one will just stick to a habit. With ADHD you just "forget" to read that one word, no matter how many post-its you stick on the monitor or mirror. At best you cycle back to the "word" every few weeks without making progress, like treading water.

runawaybottle 6y ago
You can read my comments in this thread. Trust me I know exactly what it’s like having a midterm coming up and staring at a book and being unable to read one word, on the verge of flunking out, and realizing your life is not going to amount to shit. Which means, I was procrastinating even when the consequences and stakes were high. Either I was reckless, or I had no conception of the magnitude of the consequences. Is that a concentration issue?
- Leparamour 6y ago
  Of course I cannot speak for everyone with ADHD but for me the focus issue generally extends even to typical procrastination behaviour for I can't consistently focus on things that are fun and harmless, like reading a novel (currently The Expanse) or watching a Netflix show or physical activities (BJJ). I think that ingrained bad habits are only the top layer in a life with ADHD.
- iovrthoughtthis 6y ago
  no one here can diagnose you. see a professional if you would like a professional diagnosis. take some responsibility for yourself.

runawaybottle 6y ago

You can read my comments in this thread. Trust me I know exactly what it’s like having a midterm coming up and staring at a book and being unable to read one word, on the verge of flunking out, and realizing your life is not going to amount to shit. Which means, I was procrastinating even when the consequences and stakes were high. Either I was reckless, or I had no conception of the magnitude of the consequences. Is that a concentration issue?

Leparamour 6y ago
Of course I cannot speak for everyone with ADHD but for me the focus issue generally extends even to typical procrastination behaviour for I can't consistently focus on things that are fun and harmless, like reading a novel (currently The Expanse) or watching a Netflix show or physical activities (BJJ). I think that ingrained bad habits are only the top layer in a life with ADHD.
iovrthoughtthis 6y ago
no one here can diagnose you. see a professional if you would like a professional diagnosis. take some responsibility for yourself.