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- Life being an eternal struggle due to slipping into drug/alcohol use and doing those very intensely - Being unable to maintain good habits (e.g. gym) because

- Life being an eternal struggle due to slipping into drug/alcohol use and doing those very intensely - Being unable to maintain good habits (e.g. gym) because it feels like you're nearly a completely different person at different points because your desires/wants change from day to day to hour to hour to minute to minute - Forgetting literally everything due to getting distracted - Not remembering important stuff someone was telling you as your brain went off on a tangent while they were speaking - Absolutely zero ability to act based on deferred gratification for any extended period of time (do I want this banana outfit now or maybe a holiday later if I stop buying banana outfits etc) - Difficulty in monogamous relationships (being distracted by other people very easily because they are stimulating/exciting) - People getting frustated as they don't keep up with how you dance between things - Self discipline is basically on nightmare mode - Ooh yes one more Sunday pint. Oh wait, what's that, I fucked up Monday yet again and now I am fired again?? - Working at 1000% speed but only 10% of the time - Having to constantly remind self to calm down and be more careful with code/changes/deployment

curryst 6y ago
> - Difficulty in monogamous relationships (being distracted by other people very easily because they are stimulating/exciting) This is interesting, I always thought that was just me. I've never been unfaithful, but I've always felt that "something different" appeals to me in relationships more than it does for other people. I've tried ethical non-monogamy once, and ended up in the same spot I'm usually in with my projects: trying to do too many at once, and end up half-assing or half-finishing them all. > - Ooh yes one more Sunday pint. Oh wait, what's that, I fucked up Monday yet again and now I am fired again?? I feel that one too. Fortunately, my inability to sit still means I end up distracting myself with a bajillion things until I forget my head hurts. Never been fired for it, but it's a fine line to walk. The lack of impulse control also makes it difficult to avoid the situation (karaoke on a Tuesday night? Of course I'm in). Fwiw, I find that my mind is looking for something to slow it down and let it cool off for a while more than it is for alcohol specifically. Marijuana doesn't really help me with that, but my shrink suggested L-Theanine (OTC, they should have it in the supplements section) and I've found that it ticks the box fairly well without the horrid side effects of booze. > - People getting frustated as they don't keep up with how you dance between things Ah yes, and then pair that with my frustration that I have to keep backtracking to explain how two things are linked in a way that I thought was obvious. I haven't found anything better to do there than forcing myself to ask for acknowledgement that the other person is still with me. I just pepper my conversations with "Does that make sense?" or "Right?" to give them time to interject. I also often find myself speaking quickly, and polite people have a hard time finding a time they can say "hold on, I'm lost".
canadianfella 6y ago
I guess I have ADHD. I thought these were all normal things.
- LocalH 6y ago
  Perhaps you should discuss this with your doctor. I've also found some success with low-dose usage of psychedelics, although I do not recommend this course of action without doing plentiful research.
- antihero 6y ago
  These things to some level in most people but with ADHD are extreme.
RHSman2 6y ago
Good stuff!!! I feel life is an edge for everybody but having impulsive ADHD turns into a very exciting knife ridge on a mountain with one side sunny, happy and not so dangerous and the other, dark, enticing and dangerous.

curryst 6y ago

> - Difficulty in monogamous relationships (being distracted by other people very easily because they are stimulating/exciting) This is interesting, I always thought that was just me. I've never been unfaithful, but I've always felt that "something different" appeals to me in relationships more than it does for other people. I've tried ethical non-monogamy once, and ended up in the same spot I'm usually in with my projects: trying to do too many at once, and end up half-assing or half-finishing them all. > - Ooh yes one more Sunday pint. Oh wait, what's that, I fucked up Monday yet again and now I am fired again?? I feel that one too. Fortunately, my inability to sit still means I end up distracting myself with a bajillion things until I forget my head hurts. Never been fired for it, but it's a fine line to walk. The lack of impulse control also makes it difficult to avoid the situation (karaoke on a Tuesday night? Of course I'm in). Fwiw, I find that my mind is looking for something to slow it down and let it cool off for a while more than it is for alcohol specifically. Marijuana doesn't really help me with that, but my shrink suggested L-Theanine (OTC, they should have it in the supplements section) and I've found that it ticks the box fairly well without the horrid side effects of booze. > - People getting frustated as they don't keep up with how you dance between things Ah yes, and then pair that with my frustration that I have to keep backtracking to explain how two things are linked in a way that I thought was obvious. I haven't found anything better to do there than forcing myself to ask for acknowledgement that the other person is still with me. I just pepper my conversations with "Does that make sense?" or "Right?" to give them time to interject. I also often find myself speaking quickly, and polite people have a hard time finding a time they can say "hold on, I'm lost".

canadianfella 6y ago

I guess I have ADHD. I thought these were all normal things.

LocalH 6y ago
Perhaps you should discuss this with your doctor. I've also found some success with low-dose usage of psychedelics, although I do not recommend this course of action without doing plentiful research.
antihero 6y ago
These things to some level in most people but with ADHD are extreme.

RHSman2 6y ago

Good stuff!!! I feel life is an edge for everybody but having impulsive ADHD turns into a very exciting knife ridge on a mountain with one side sunny, happy and not so dangerous and the other, dark, enticing and dangerous.