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I didn’t claim to be an expert. He’s not abusive because he can’t take care of himself. He’s abusive because he’s mean spirited and takes advantage of being exc

I didn’t claim to be an expert. He’s not abusive because he can’t take care of himself. He’s abusive because he’s mean spirited and takes advantage of being excused for it because of his celebrity. I was never afforded that. Take your expertise and shove it up someone who isn’t a nobody. Edit: I regret saying anything please carry on praising the guy who treats people like garbage because people enable him. I’ll just go back to doing my best to triangulate my emotional reactions with empathy so I can survive and have moderately healthy relationships.

Gibbon1 6y ago
Seems to me that Stillman has gone through an obsessive amount of effort to avoid having to change his boorish behavior. You and I would get fired for a lot less. I'm like, it's his hill he can die on it.
- eyelidlessness 6y ago
  And apparently I’m supposed to be an expert in my own neirodivergence if I don’t excuse his behavior. Fuck that.
  - Gibbon1 6y ago
    Reminds me of anytime there is a infamous mass shooting the conversation turns to mentally ill people and what to do about them.
antonvs 6y ago
I think you're absolutely right about the enablement aspect. Stallman seems to have been protected from normal social feedback at least since starting at MIT as a graduate student in the 1970s. Most reasonably functioning autistic people seem able to improve their social skills, at least to some degree, as they mature, if only as a conscious act ("masking"). The bubble Stallman lived in seems to either have prevented him from doing that, or worse, possibly allowed him to willfully ignore such personal development. You see this unproductive coddling in the Perens article, which simply assumes Stallman's "handicap" is a fact of life over which he couldn't possibly have any conscious control. In my experience, that's rarely the case, unless you're dealing with much more severely handicapped individuals, who may not even be verbal.

Gibbon1 6y ago

Seems to me that Stillman has gone through an obsessive amount of effort to avoid having to change his boorish behavior. You and I would get fired for a lot less. I'm like, it's his hill he can die on it.

eyelidlessness 6y ago
And apparently I’m supposed to be an expert in my own neirodivergence if I don’t excuse his behavior. Fuck that.
- Gibbon1 6y ago
  Reminds me of anytime there is a infamous mass shooting the conversation turns to mentally ill people and what to do about them.

antonvs 6y ago

I think you're absolutely right about the enablement aspect. Stallman seems to have been protected from normal social feedback at least since starting at MIT as a graduate student in the 1970s. Most reasonably functioning autistic people seem able to improve their social skills, at least to some degree, as they mature, if only as a conscious act ("masking"). The bubble Stallman lived in seems to either have prevented him from doing that, or worse, possibly allowed him to willfully ignore such personal development. You see this unproductive coddling in the Perens article, which simply assumes Stallman's "handicap" is a fact of life over which he couldn't possibly have any conscious control. In my experience, that's rarely the case, unless you're dealing with much more severely handicapped individuals, who may not even be verbal.