I'm so sorry you're going through that. Everyone should take this advice seriously. My 94yo grandfather passed a few days before Christmas last year and I had

I'm so sorry you're going through that. Everyone should take this advice seriously. My 94yo grandfather passed a few days before Christmas last year and I had been staying next-door, taking care of him for about 2 months leading-up to it (helping him to the bathroom a few times per night, getting him water, etc. Congestive heart failure is not the dignified and pain-free death you might think it would be.) I found his body maybe 5 minutes after his heart had failed, and it took another 20 for the paramedics to arrive. I was really upset to find that when they arrived, without a DNR on file anywhere, they were required to attempt to resuscitate. I was sitting there with my grandmother hoping that it wouldn't come to that, and luckily common sense prevailed and they were able to get a doctor on the phone to sign-off on avoiding CPR. But for a while there, I was really concerned that my grandmother and I were going to have to watch them desecrate his body which had been lifeless for close to 30 minutes. Horrible. By default, liability overrules common-sense when it comes to medical treatment, and absolutely everyone loses.