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From the article: She warns that the positive development may turn once ...society reopens. (Because leaving an abusive relationship) is the setting in which m
by DoreenMichele 6y ago
From the article:
She warns that the positive development may turn once ...society reopens. (Because leaving an abusive relationship) is the setting in which most domestic murders take place.
A lot of people seem to not know this: Leaving an abusive situation is the most dangerous time. You are most likely to be killed when you try to leave.
Abusers don't think you have any rights. They don't think you deserve any respect. They see you as their personal property and it angers them for you to try to take that away from them.
Abusers trend towards feeling like "If I can't have you, no one can have you."
Edited to remove gendered language from the article quote, among other things.
- magicalhippo 6y agoHere's been some focus on this here last few years. About one in four murders are committed by a partner or ex-partner. Many of them have been in contact with the police in advance. A committee was formed to look into this and come with preventative measures[1], which recently released their conclusions[2]. [1]: https://www.nrk.no/sorlandet/har-gjennomgatt-19-drap---i-dag-kom-rapporten-1.15289223 https://www.nrk.no/sorlandet/har-gjennomgatt-19-drap---i-dag... [2]: https://www.regjeringen.no/contentassets/5f3dc96de14f443f869795a19088926a/no/pdfs/nou202020200017000dddpdfs.pdf https://www.regjeringen.no/contentassets/5f3dc96de14f443f869...
- temp0826 6y agoI do wonder about the suicide rate, with this in mind. (ie accepting stuck in some situation and ending it vs trying to get out and getting murdered in the process)
- DoreenMichele 6y agoI have no idea. I posted the comment as a sort of PSA a la "forewarned is forearmed." If you want to successfully leave an abusive relationship, you need to be aware of the risks and plan accordingly.