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I'm not a church-goer and now in my late thirties have seen many, including myself, have significant crises ending up therapy of some kind. Thankfully, these cr

I'm not a church-goer and now in my late thirties have seen many, including myself, have significant crises ending up therapy of some kind. Thankfully, these crises have all had successful and revelationary outcomes. Crises such as financial, relationship, burn-out, questioning purpose, depression. In all cases it's been a revelation for the people involved because they were simply unequipped to deal with the situation; didn't have the tools in their toolkit. It dawned on me that as a kid I did go to church as part of school, and there I would receive almost daily "counselling", or at least broaching life issues, challenges and philosophical concepts regularly. When not a church-goer, where does one get this same level of regular counselling, self-improvement or self-analysis? I'm not advocating religion though I feel like the concept of meeting regularly and talking about big issues is very positive, and I feel overlooked.

notsureaboutpg 6y ago
I became a church-goer (mosque-goer) recently and I never tell this to people in person, but that is truly the best place for counseling for weaning off addictions, etc. I know everyone will link me to a story of someone in a Church who did Churchy Narcanon or something and died or how these programs are ineffective, etc. But I'm not talking about programs and therapy, I'm talking about the message that you are in control of your destiny and you are responsible for what you do in this world even if no one sees it. That simple message is something you'll never hear in any therapists office, no doctor's office, no social scientist will tell you this, no think tank, no shelter, no rehab clinic. Most people today are too afraid to say this. They want to blame someone else for the issues you have. The government, your skin color, racism, sexism, ageism, unfairness in life, inequality, capitalism, wokeness, cancel culture, etc. Everyone has somewhere else to blame. I found in the church (mosque) that people are willing to be honest with you and tell you that you are designed and made to be able to handle the trials and tribulations of life, and you are the only one who can do that for you and you are responsible for the choices you make while trying to do that, and it's not easy, the solution isn't easy, but it wasn't ever meant to be. I struggled with addictions for a while and that message was what got through to me after attempts at therapy, counseling, etc. Etc. Sure not everyone can do well with it but so many more can than think they can.

notsureaboutpg 6y ago

I became a church-goer (mosque-goer) recently and I never tell this to people in person, but that is truly the best place for counseling for weaning off addictions, etc. I know everyone will link me to a story of someone in a Church who did Churchy Narcanon or something and died or how these programs are ineffective, etc. But I'm not talking about programs and therapy, I'm talking about the message that you are in control of your destiny and you are responsible for what you do in this world even if no one sees it. That simple message is something you'll never hear in any therapists office, no doctor's office, no social scientist will tell you this, no think tank, no shelter, no rehab clinic. Most people today are too afraid to say this. They want to blame someone else for the issues you have. The government, your skin color, racism, sexism, ageism, unfairness in life, inequality, capitalism, wokeness, cancel culture, etc. Everyone has somewhere else to blame. I found in the church (mosque) that people are willing to be honest with you and tell you that you are designed and made to be able to handle the trials and tribulations of life, and you are the only one who can do that for you and you are responsible for the choices you make while trying to do that, and it's not easy, the solution isn't easy, but it wasn't ever meant to be. I struggled with addictions for a while and that message was what got through to me after attempts at therapy, counseling, etc. Etc. Sure not everyone can do well with it but so many more can than think they can.