I'm in a similar boat. I grew up Christian and then became a very "online atheist", but since the mid-2000s I've become more worried about the lack of what feel

I'm in a similar boat. I grew up Christian and then became a very "online atheist", but since the mid-2000s I've become more worried about the lack of what feels like a real in-person community. My wife is Reform Jewish and one thing that I have come to appreciate is what seems to me a good balance between community and a good dose of secularism--I agreed to help raise our children this way with her for this reason (without converting myself). The most dogmatic thing you could maybe argue is some kind of allegiance to Israel, but this isn't present as much in the younger / millennial Bay Area Jewish community that I've witnessed.