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that's akin to saying, "so just because a gun misfired and almost blew your head off, you're just always going to be afraid of guns?" in this case the gun bein

by volkk 6y ago

that's akin to saying, "so just because a gun misfired and almost blew your head off, you're just always going to be afraid of guns?" in this case the gun being your career shattered by idiotic accusations of sexism in the form of calling out bad CSS. being called a sexist is almost like being called a racist. the accusation is enough for people to believe it to be true. so yes, a normal human being will instead be extremely wary, and rather than trying to shoot more guns in the future, will instead shy away from that experience entirely. you seem to be posting in this thread everywhere that every man should just be a hero and after a close call with having their career derailed, they should continue on and ignore the past. realistically, this will never happen given the state of how society deals with these issues. it's also a very privileged POV to have because if you're a father with a family/kids etc, the last thing you're likely to do is stick out like a sore thumb and continue doing the thing that almost made you lose your job and reputation in the industry.

pm90 6y ago
On the contrary. People who refuse to engage with coworkers of a different gender because they were the target of a complaint which didn’t actually make a damn difference in their life are harming every single one of those coworkers. This sort of overreaction to even the simplest steps taken in direction of correcting incorrect behavior is ridiculous. This person had the opportunity to find out more about what about his action made the person he was working with report it as a “sort of sexist remark”. People don’t casually levy accusations like that, and if you believe this is widespread (it isn’t, for the record) then you’re living a privileged life. We only have one side of the story and people are quick to jump to his defense. Sorry, I am not so quick to accept anything. There could be more at play here and we just don’t know. But people in this thread and on HN in generally are quick to accept this incident at face value which just points to how the tech culture is indeed rife with toxic masculinity.
- mfkp 6y ago
  I think you're reading much too far into this situation. At no point did he say anything resembling "refusing to engage with coworkers of a different gender".

by volkk 6y ago

pm90 6y ago

On the contrary. People who refuse to engage with coworkers of a different gender because they were the target of a complaint which didn’t actually make a damn difference in their life are harming every single one of those coworkers. This sort of overreaction to even the simplest steps taken in direction of correcting incorrect behavior is ridiculous. This person had the opportunity to find out more about what about his action made the person he was working with report it as a “sort of sexist remark”. People don’t casually levy accusations like that, and if you believe this is widespread (it isn’t, for the record) then you’re living a privileged life. We only have one side of the story and people are quick to jump to his defense. Sorry, I am not so quick to accept anything. There could be more at play here and we just don’t know. But people in this thread and on HN in generally are quick to accept this incident at face value which just points to how the tech culture is indeed rife with toxic masculinity.

mfkp 6y ago
I think you're reading much too far into this situation. At no point did he say anything resembling "refusing to engage with coworkers of a different gender".