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It's agree that it was just one experience and my reaction may be too extreme, but I'm not claiming this is everyone. My only claim is that for me, it was such
by throwaway192874 6y ago
It's agree that it was just one experience and my reaction may be too extreme, but I'm not claiming this is everyone. My only claim is that for me, it was such an uncomfortable situation that I'm willing to do a lot to avoid it happening again.
And this was >5 years ago, and I think the likelihood of this happening has only gone up in that time.
> And you're saying that it wasn't made a big deal, that it was just pointed out to you?
Yes, but I suppose my point here is that even that was enough for me to be cautious going forward
- lgleason 6y agoI think your reaction is a normal response given what happened to you.
- pm90 6y agoFor the record, it was not a normal reaction in any reasonable way that you could use to classify reactions to feedback.
- JamesBarney 6y agoJudging from the feedback it was certainly is a normal reaction even if you don't believe it's the right reaction.
- pm90 6y agoI think it’s very strange to refuse to work with an entire gender just because one person gave a feedback that you perceived as incorrect. You are free to do as you like, of course. But the future is simply going to be more diverse with people of different genders and races. Anyways. I do not really know of your specific situation, but talking to a professional therapist is always helpful when trying to deal with such issues. (Feel free to ignore any advice I give, I’m sharing what I found useful personally)
- ZephyrBlu 6y agoI think it's very strange you view an accusation of sexism as "feedback that you perceived to be incorrect".
- spockz 6y agoThe GP is saying that is coloured how he interacts with women. I interpreted it as being in the context of work. That is not the same as refusing to work with an entire gender.
- throwaway192874 6y agoI never said I refused to work with any gender. I've successful worked with plenty of men & women since this experience without issue and it's not something I'm that particularly concerned about doing in the future. My claim is just that this experience changed how I interact with women in the workplace compared to men. So to me, the point of the article, that men are "clamming up", holds true for me even with this minor situation compared to a much larger public situation. I've had it on the list to get a professional therapist for years, one day I'll finally actually do the work to set it up :)