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I'm going to guess the parent has more than one experience

by anm89 6y ago

kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y ago
Yes that has been my experience dealing with _almost_ every black person, frankly. I am just saying it how it is.
- vmception 6y ago
  > dealing with Even the word choice is sus
  - kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y ago
    1 (usually dealings) a business relation or transaction: they had dealings with an insurance company. • a personal connection or association with someone: my dealings with David consisted of giving him his late-night formula. • the particular way in which someone behaves toward others: fair dealing came naturally to him.
    - vmception 6y ago
      A personal connection with someone, not an entire ethnic group / race of people. I really have doubts that you would say it another way. “This kind of insensitivity always happens when I deal with white people.” Whether its accurate or not, this comes across as a chore, as if there is a checkbox of trying that I get around to on occasion. As opposed to just socializing with people. and the second bullet point doesn't even apply as thats not how you used it. You should really engage in deeper introspection of your interactions to see why this is a chore for you.
- deanCommie 6y ago
  Do you wonder then maybe then when you hear a black person reporting a story of racism, that's ALSO not the only experience they've ever faced? That maybe this anecdote was also far from the only scenario they faced?
  - kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y ago
    And what does that have to do with the conversation we were having? He made it about race himself, and decided to take offense to something imaginary.
deanCommie 6y ago
So, just to make sure I understand. a minority person reports a story: "That's just one example! That's not racism!" A white person reports this story and says "see, minorities exaggerate." and you are willing to give them the benefit of the doubt that it must have happened to more than one person. Do you see the problem?
- anm89 6y ago
  Whatever you think you are responding to in between the lines of my comment isn't there. My only comment was regarding the number of experiences of the parent. Nothing less, nothing more.

I'm going to guess the parent has more than one experience

by anm89 6y ago

I'm going to guess the parent has more than one experience

kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y ago

Yes that has been my experience dealing with _almost_ every black person, frankly. I am just saying it how it is.

vmception 6y ago
> dealing with Even the word choice is sus
- kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y ago
  1 (usually dealings) a business relation or transaction: they had dealings with an insurance company. • a personal connection or association with someone: my dealings with David consisted of giving him his late-night formula. • the particular way in which someone behaves toward others: fair dealing came naturally to him.
  - vmception 6y ago
    A personal connection with someone, not an entire ethnic group / race of people. I really have doubts that you would say it another way. “This kind of insensitivity always happens when I deal with white people.” Whether its accurate or not, this comes across as a chore, as if there is a checkbox of trying that I get around to on occasion. As opposed to just socializing with people. and the second bullet point doesn't even apply as thats not how you used it. You should really engage in deeper introspection of your interactions to see why this is a chore for you.
deanCommie 6y ago
Do you wonder then maybe then when you hear a black person reporting a story of racism, that's ALSO not the only experience they've ever faced? That maybe this anecdote was also far from the only scenario they faced?
- kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y ago
  And what does that have to do with the conversation we were having? He made it about race himself, and decided to take offense to something imaginary.

deanCommie 6y ago

So, just to make sure I understand. a minority person reports a story: "That's just one example! That's not racism!" A white person reports this story and says "see, minorities exaggerate." and you are willing to give them the benefit of the doubt that it must have happened to more than one person. Do you see the problem?

anm89 6y ago
Whatever you think you are responding to in between the lines of my comment isn't there. My only comment was regarding the number of experiences of the parent. Nothing less, nothing more.