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> Why do we need to bend ourselves backwards to make sure all minorities feel comfortable all the time? > The point here is you can't talk to minority groups a
by vmception 6y ago
> Why do we need to bend ourselves backwards to make sure all minorities feel comfortable all the time?
> The point here is you can't talk to minority groups about anything these days, if you are white.
You lost me here.
You had one experience with one person and extrapolated that to multiple entire groups.
You should be able to discern how your conversation with that one person was okay and not a "cancelable" offense, and how your comment that I quoted is not okay and could be a "cancelable" offense. Or if that's not the issue, you should be able to see how to have that conversation.
Can you see that I can't tell if you've been pushed to extreme views where you wind up on websites where other people say the same thing and agree with you, or if you all your experiences are segregated like this to the point you would fit a definition of racist?
That was rhetorical.
The point is that your one experience is something fairly predictable but not an area that validates your complaint. There would be a way to continue that conversation, acknowledge the person's experience and how they conflate that with race-based oppression, while also being able to contribute to the conversation.
- anm89 6y agoI'm going to guess the parent has more than one experience
- kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y agoYes that has been my experience dealing with _almost_ every black person, frankly. I am just saying it how it is.
- vmception 6y ago> dealing with Even the word choice is sus
- kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y ago1 (usually dealings) a business relation or transaction: they had dealings with an insurance company. • a personal connection or association with someone: my dealings with David consisted of giving him his late-night formula. • the particular way in which someone behaves toward others: fair dealing came naturally to him.
- vmception 6y agoA personal connection with someone, not an entire ethnic group / race of people. I really have doubts that you would say it another way. “This kind of insensitivity always happens when I deal with white people.” Whether its accurate or not, this comes across as a chore, as if there is a checkbox of trying that I get around to on occasion. As opposed to just socializing with people. and the second bullet point doesn't even apply as thats not how you used it. You should really engage in deeper introspection of your interactions to see why this is a chore for you.
- deanCommie 6y agoDo you wonder then maybe then when you hear a black person reporting a story of racism, that's ALSO not the only experience they've ever faced? That maybe this anecdote was also far from the only scenario they faced?
- kjjjjjjjjjjjjjj 6y agoAnd what does that have to do with the conversation we were having? He made it about race himself, and decided to take offense to something imaginary.
- deanCommie 6y agoSo, just to make sure I understand. a minority person reports a story: "That's just one example! That's not racism!" A white person reports this story and says "see, minorities exaggerate." and you are willing to give them the benefit of the doubt that it must have happened to more than one person. Do you see the problem?
- anm89 6y agoWhatever you think you are responding to in between the lines of my comment isn't there. My only comment was regarding the number of experiences of the parent. Nothing less, nothing more.