Liars and abusers are emotionally invested in what they're trying to convince you of. They try to sell you their story. That's the best common theme I've found

Liars and abusers are emotionally invested in what they're trying to convince you of. They try to sell you their story. That's the best common theme I've found in reality. If someone is trying to convince you to believe them, they don't have your interests as their primary concern. It's all about them.