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> but there's nothing wrong with just having them. It is indeed not a crime to have them. But I would strongly suggest that those people do not work in places

> but there's nothing wrong with just having them. It is indeed not a crime to have them. But I would strongly suggest that those people do not work in places where they have power over kids. (teachers, tutors, youth clubs, etc) We have a saying "putting the cat next to the milk". And that is exactly what is going on here. If you hire a teacher, and you know this person has sexual feelings towards kids, you are really some dumb fuck. You should also be punished for negligence when shit hits the fan.

AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago
What you're saying sounds like it makes sense, but it is essentially the same as saying that people simply can't control themselves, which is bullshit. Yes, sometimes people have trouble with self control, and definitely those people should stay away from temptation, or be kept away when their lack of control would endanger somebody else, but my experience around people who harbor all sorts of fantasies --sexual or otherwise-- is that for the vast majority of them it simply isn't a problem. It's like, you ever see someone you think is really attractive and internally you're like "man, I'd really like to tear their clothes off..." but of course you don't because you know the difference between right and wrong? It's pretty much just that. You might even go home and masturbate to tearing that person's clothes off, it isn't a big deal. And while it doesn't seem related with our contemporary sensibilities, people used to say what you're saying about gay people. They wouldn't want one near their kids, they shouldn't be camp counselors, etc. Of course, today that doesn't fly because being gay has nothing to do with being a child molester, but the point is that people link having "perverted" thoughts directly with being a danger to children regardless of if those thoughts even actually involve children. And while it is true that the perversion of pedophiles is much more directly related with child molestation, I don't think it is any more fair to assume that they are actually dangerous to anyone.

AnIdiotOnTheNet 6y ago

What you're saying sounds like it makes sense, but it is essentially the same as saying that people simply can't control themselves, which is bullshit. Yes, sometimes people have trouble with self control, and definitely those people should stay away from temptation, or be kept away when their lack of control would endanger somebody else, but my experience around people who harbor all sorts of fantasies --sexual or otherwise-- is that for the vast majority of them it simply isn't a problem. It's like, you ever see someone you think is really attractive and internally you're like "man, I'd really like to tear their clothes off..." but of course you don't because you know the difference between right and wrong? It's pretty much just that. You might even go home and masturbate to tearing that person's clothes off, it isn't a big deal. And while it doesn't seem related with our contemporary sensibilities, people used to say what you're saying about gay people. They wouldn't want one near their kids, they shouldn't be camp counselors, etc. Of course, today that doesn't fly because being gay has nothing to do with being a child molester, but the point is that people link having "perverted" thoughts directly with being a danger to children regardless of if those thoughts even actually involve children. And while it is true that the perversion of pedophiles is much more directly related with child molestation, I don't think it is any more fair to assume that they are actually dangerous to anyone.