> for some but not for me [...] makes me feel so anxious > what do you expect I think it's less about expectations and more about preferences. Sure, this mig

> for some but not for me [...] makes me feel so anxious > what do you expect I think it's less about expectations and more about preferences. Sure, this might be how it works in that part of the world, but if you're not from there, and you're not accustomed to constantly looking over your shoulder, an experience like this can be harrowing. Even if you know your counterpart is just doing what they always do and not giving it a second thought, some people would be drowning in anxiety. This seems like a completely reasonable personal limit to me.