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Ok, so I upvoted you, but maaan do you have it wrong. I am the definition of introversion (to myself, avoid crowds, do not need to chat with everyone at the pa

Ok, so I upvoted you, but maaan do you have it wrong. I am the definition of introversion (to myself, avoid crowds, do not need to chat with everyone at the party, content with silence that others think is awkward, definitely do not want to ever be the center of attention, like to be alone with my thoughts ...) "What, you don't want to go to the Nicki Minaj concert?" "Let me explain. You see, I'm an introvert...." I have been to concerts by myself just because my friends do not like Coldplay, or would not pay a hundred to watch Jay Z, or just wanted to be out of the house. Guess what? I always had a blast. I have been to the movies alone. My ex girlfriend used to hate me for this one. So now I do not tell anyone I date when I need a freaking night alone at the theather. It's my dirty little secret. I go clubbing mostly by myself because my friends like to go to places I do not like. On top of that I am shy, but boy do I talk to girls. "It takes one man to talk to girls", you do not need a wingman to talk to girls. You only need a nice smile, and attitude. I do not like hiking, true, but I do take shorts trips in remote places where it would be advisable to have someone with you. I prefer to do this alone. Danger or not. I do not like smalltalk, because it is just that smalltalk, but I understand society deals with me as I am so I make an effort to deal with society as it is, hence I do the smalltalk in order to find something that may appeal. You almost always find it within a minute. EDIT: Introvert does not mean antisocial.

vibrunazo 15y ago
Don't you think that you're just arguing semantics? There's little objective argument to be made when the two of you have different definitions for the same word. 90% of all disagreements between human beings derive from semantic confusion :)
- rokhayakebe 15y ago
  It could be, but his points are rather extreme, like "If you are introverted, you won't be doing this because it requires other people for you to enjoy it"
Psyonic 15y ago
If you can approach girls at a club by yourself, you're not shy. That doesn't make sense. I run marathons, but I'm not athletic. See the contradiction?
- rokhayakebe 15y ago
  No, it's more like "I cannot swim, but if I want to eat I have to get to the other side of the lake".
  - Psyonic 15y ago
    And yet he's presumably able to pull these girls, in a wild extroverted setting like a club, where a girl is rarely alone, and competition is fierce. So he can't swim, but when he needs to get to the other side of the lake, he beats Michael Phelps.
    - rokhayakebe 15y ago
      No, you got it wrong. Noone said anything about my success rate, which is laughable. I am just saying I am introverted, and shy but I do talk to women. Yes, competition is there, but what should I do instead? Cry about my inability to be a social butterfly.
      - Psyonic 15y ago
        First off, I want to say I'm on your side. I've got nothing but good things to say about you getting out there and making an effort. So ultimately this is just a semantic argument. I still think you've overcome "shy" if you can approach in a club. Inverted, sure, but not shy. Regardless, semantic arguments really are the worst kind, so I'm letting this one go. Keep fighting the good fight.
        rokhayakebe 15y ago
        You could be right, maybe I am "overcoming" my shyness.
StrawberryFrog 15y ago
I have been to concerts by myself ... I have been to the movies alone. yep, me too. I find there's a huge difference, to do with what's expected of you. At a movie or a concert, there's no requirement for social interaction, so it takes a lot less energy than, say a party at someone's house. The presence of lots of other people does not in itself make the situation tiring. In fact it can feel liberating to be there but not have any expectations put upon you.

vibrunazo 15y ago

Don't you think that you're just arguing semantics? There's little objective argument to be made when the two of you have different definitions for the same word. 90% of all disagreements between human beings derive from semantic confusion :)

rokhayakebe 15y ago
It could be, but his points are rather extreme, like "If you are introverted, you won't be doing this because it requires other people for you to enjoy it"

Psyonic 15y ago

If you can approach girls at a club by yourself, you're not shy. That doesn't make sense. I run marathons, but I'm not athletic. See the contradiction?

rokhayakebe 15y ago
No, it's more like "I cannot swim, but if I want to eat I have to get to the other side of the lake".
- Psyonic 15y ago
  And yet he's presumably able to pull these girls, in a wild extroverted setting like a club, where a girl is rarely alone, and competition is fierce. So he can't swim, but when he needs to get to the other side of the lake, he beats Michael Phelps.
  - rokhayakebe 15y ago
    No, you got it wrong. Noone said anything about my success rate, which is laughable. I am just saying I am introverted, and shy but I do talk to women. Yes, competition is there, but what should I do instead? Cry about my inability to be a social butterfly.
    - Psyonic 15y ago
      First off, I want to say I'm on your side. I've got nothing but good things to say about you getting out there and making an effort. So ultimately this is just a semantic argument. I still think you've overcome "shy" if you can approach in a club. Inverted, sure, but not shy. Regardless, semantic arguments really are the worst kind, so I'm letting this one go. Keep fighting the good fight.
      - rokhayakebe 15y ago
        You could be right, maybe I am "overcoming" my shyness.

StrawberryFrog 15y ago

I have been to concerts by myself ... I have been to the movies alone. yep, me too. I find there's a huge difference, to do with what's expected of you. At a movie or a concert, there's no requirement for social interaction, so it takes a lot less energy than, say a party at someone's house. The presence of lots of other people does not in itself make the situation tiring. In fact it can feel liberating to be there but not have any expectations put upon you.