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There's a certain city in central NC that I generally avoid because of this aspect. Every time I've visited friends there, I was asked for money in a confrontat

There's a certain city in central NC that I generally avoid because of this aspect. Every time I've visited friends there, I was asked for money in a confrontational manner. Every time I've left my car, it seemed reasonable to expect vandalism or a break-in upon returning. (I'm not a flashy person. I drive a 12 year old Civic. I keep nothing valuable in the cabin. I keep to myself.) After a few of these negative interactions, I decided to generally avoid visiting ever again. It's not that I have a problem dealing with it: It's very easy to say no, or to run if needed. It's that I simply shouldn't have to deal with this BS in the first place! Please, just leave me alone! I'm leaving you alone. In places like this, I lock the doors upon entering the car. Depending on location, I also keep the engine running, in case the car must be used in an evasive or defensive manner. (People have tried my door handles while stopped at lights, so the car is set to lock when driving too.) Be aware of your surroundings, and casually pay attention to how people are watching you. I am very glad to live in a different nearby city, in a more sprawling area, that has much less of this activity. Due to the sprawl, it is not nearly as economically motivating for trolls to congregate.

rory 6y ago
So specific to not just say the city haha. Let me guess, you're talking about Raleigh and you live in either Durham or Cary?
- leetcrew 6y ago
  is raleigh really that bad? it seemed quite nice when I visited.
  - rory 6y ago
    I don't mean to imply that, it is a nice city. The parent is actually more likely referring to a city further west.
dillondoyle 6y ago
Theft is a problem. Car thefts are way up in Denver, stealing catalytic converters. But is being asked for money really that horrible? A lot of people are suffering, even if dope sick that's torture and money would fix it. I guess depends how 'confrontational' but I've noticed those who treat these humans as less than, that's where the most problems are. An example, contractor who did my bathroom. The contractor stopped at a stop light with tents and he started taking pictures (in the posting to fb as a meme type of way). And he got accosted for it. I don't feel too bad for him - it's not a freaking zoo. Those are the type of people who attract bad confrontations in my experience. most people won't even make eye contact or smile. That goes such a long way. I can't imagine being in that position, it'd be like some sick twilight zone, everyone looking away you. For sure though there are a small % of just mentally unstable, tweakers, etc. But easily over 95% of the unhoused people I've talked to or walk by are nice, real humans. I tend to nod, give any extra change or food. I've also had similar positive encounters in much bigger cities like London too. A counter example, Paris has more pick pocketer types who are far too invasive/physically grabbing. But flat out crime is different than what I'm talking about.

rory 6y ago

So specific to not just say the city haha. Let me guess, you're talking about Raleigh and you live in either Durham or Cary?

leetcrew 6y ago
is raleigh really that bad? it seemed quite nice when I visited.
- rory 6y ago
  I don't mean to imply that, it is a nice city. The parent is actually more likely referring to a city further west.

dillondoyle 6y ago

Theft is a problem. Car thefts are way up in Denver, stealing catalytic converters. But is being asked for money really that horrible? A lot of people are suffering, even if dope sick that's torture and money would fix it. I guess depends how 'confrontational' but I've noticed those who treat these humans as less than, that's where the most problems are. An example, contractor who did my bathroom. The contractor stopped at a stop light with tents and he started taking pictures (in the posting to fb as a meme type of way). And he got accosted for it. I don't feel too bad for him - it's not a freaking zoo. Those are the type of people who attract bad confrontations in my experience. most people won't even make eye contact or smile. That goes such a long way. I can't imagine being in that position, it'd be like some sick twilight zone, everyone looking away you. For sure though there are a small % of just mentally unstable, tweakers, etc. But easily over 95% of the unhoused people I've talked to or walk by are nice, real humans. I tend to nod, give any extra change or food. I've also had similar positive encounters in much bigger cities like London too. A counter example, Paris has more pick pocketer types who are far too invasive/physically grabbing. But flat out crime is different than what I'm talking about.