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This article is nothing more than a chain-mail style bullshit list and it's sad to see it voted up so highly. I suppose it's a nice ego-stroke for all the self
by parfe 15y ago
This article is nothing more than a chain-mail style bullshit list and it's sad to see it voted up so highly. I suppose it's a nice ego-stroke for all the self described introverts, but most of the "myths" are actually supported by their counter-descriptions.
The Original Source appears to be: http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts http://www.carlkingcreative.com/10-myths-about-introverts
They hate small talk.
Small talk is a social skill. and when meeting a new person small talk is generally all you have. This basically affirms the "myth".
They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings
Talk about a value judgment on non-introverts. Being polite is more important than being pointlessly honest.
If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life.
If only I could find myself a loyal friend who can't make idle talk, will talk for days about things that only interest him and won't want to do much out in public.
They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.”
Ah yes, pity those non-introverts that take weeks to figure "it" out.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.
Non-introverts are mindless slaves to culture and advertising!
it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Or said in a way to not flex the ego "Their inner world is comforting and welcoming without challenge from outside stimulus."
- Helianthus 15y agoI agree with your general point about the chain-mail style bullshit, but it's not just an ego-stroke for self-described introverts: many are value judgments against introverts. >Myth #7 – Introverts are weird. Introverts (in my experience) _reject the concept of weird_. Social decisions like who's "in" and who's "out" hold no weight. Until this is understood, you're (by you I mean the writer, not you, parfe) not countering the myth that introverts are weird, you're just explaining the reasons people say that introverts are weird. >Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. Again, what is "broken?" It reads like an extrovert making a poor attempt to explain what he knows of introversion to other extroverts.
- chrischen 15y agoErr... the fact that "fix themselves" is in quotes implies there may or may not even be anything to fix.
- ZoFreX 15y ago> Introverts (in my experience) _reject the concept of weird_. Social decisions like who's "in" and who's "out" hold no weight. I'm pretty sure you're not talking about introverts... perhaps some subset, like geeks?
- true_religion 15y agoYou're being too dramatic when it comes to your counters. For example, the opposite of individualistic is communalistic---not "mindless slave to culture and advertising".
- falcolas 15y agoI imagine it's being upvoted so highly because people identify with it, or find it's contents to be valuable. Even if it is a "chain-mail style bullshit list", your condescending retorts don't give your point of view much credit.
- rokhayakebe 15y ago* I suppose it's a nice ego-stroke for all the self described introverts* No it isn't. My friend of 8 years, and also my roomate for 4 years told me Sunday I was being rude because he had his friends over and I retreated to my quarters. People just do not understand introversion, so it is good to just send them a link like this.
- Goladus 15y agoHow do you know that the choice you made is a consequence of introversion and not some other reason? If you can't explain your behavior to your roommate in terms of immediate personal motivations don't expect a generalized explanation to be any more enlightening.
- rokhayakebe 15y agoI didn't feel like explaining. I said "sure" and went in. I understand he does not understand me, and that is ok.
- Goladus 15y agoIf you feel pressure, sure respond in whatever way seems most appropriate at the time. All I am saying is that a half-baked online article about introversion is not going to substitute for open and honest communication. Imagine if your compiler spit out a link to a blog post about generic programming syntax rather than where specifically the parser had a problem with your code. The blog could be completely wrong or completely right, neither one changes the fact that there's a specific conflict between what the compiler expects and what was given to it.
- rokhayakebe 15y agoI get your point now. You are right there should always be some communication. In the case of my friend, it's cool, but for others it would be helpful when they read something like this.
- kahawe 15y agoMy main gripe with this article is: it heavily mixes symptoms of social anxiety, chronic shyness, downright rude behavior and the "typical" traits hacker are said to have... and then calls it "introvert". The real reasons other people see you as "introvert" can be plentiful so it is actually pretty ignorant to attribute all introverts with those "myths".