> Accepted because you conform to a certain societal expectation is not really acceptance. Social acceptance heavily depends on conformity. Groups don't welcom

> Accepted because you conform to a certain societal expectation is not really acceptance. Social acceptance heavily depends on conformity. Groups don't welcome you if you do not conform to group identity. This is why not every group works for every individual. Sure, sometimes groups should overcome prejudice or stigma, but when you're "difficult to relate to", or "difficult to communicate with" (your examples), then most groups won't be welcoming and I find that quite understandable. Luckily however, some groups (Mensa perhaps) will welcome you. That's usually also why such groups are founded in the first place. > So not just anecdotal data This was the entire structure of my first comment, and I never hid that one bit. > but highly subjective anecdotal data Those people were way happier after they lived more balanced lives, but happiness is an emotion and thus subjective, that's definitely true. > Nobody should run too fast, lift too much, be too tall, be too short, be too good at anything. Don't ever risk making the average even the slightest bit uncomfortable. This is just twisting my argument into an apagoge. I mainly wrote my comments to offer a different view to the depressed intelligent people, as it often feels like there are quite a few here on HN. I've met very smart and depressed people, and they often felt very sorry for themselves and blamed the world. I tried to convince them that a different approach would help more, and they live way happier lives now. I know that's anecdotal, I know that's subjective. I never hid that, but just tried to offer my take on the issue.