"okay I'll invite you the next time you're at a bar or cafe to pay close attention to how many people look at their phone instead of focusing on the person they

"okay I'll invite you the next time you're at a bar or cafe to pay close attention to how many people look at their phone instead of focusing on the person they're with." That seems like a personal problem you are trying to hoist on to me. If my friends engage in behavior I don't like I can tell them, or find different friends. But for me, this is rarely a problem. "...a signal that disrupts focus and draws your mind away from relationships or things that matter." Again, you seem determined to tell me what should matter to me, which will get you nowhere and seems like an oddly invasive way to engage with someone. As for your last comment, I don't think you read my other comment as I suggested. Some niche communities organize online. Sometimes that online space is an established company like Facebook. You could create an alternative or try to migrate the existing community, but first and foremost you must meet the community where it is. Or, you miss out on that community. Maybe it's fine for some hobby you can take or leave. Maybe it's more difficult if that community is for a rare medical condition, for example.