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"...friends you chat with two times per year is not friendship in a real sense of the term" No, it is a different sense of the term and has different value. Tha

"...friends you chat with two times per year is not friendship in a real sense of the term" No, it is a different sense of the term and has different value. That's not in any way a bad thing, nor does it detract from other relationships. It is purely additive. "There's value in disconnecting and spending time with yourself..." Right, but using social media does not stop one from enjoying personal time. Why would it? Again, it is additive. I'd also point you to my other comment about unique communities and opportunities that only exits on the established social media platforms.

Barrin92 6y ago
>nor does it detract from other relationships okay I'll invite you the next time you're at a bar or cafe to pay close attention to how many people look at their phone instead of focusing on the person they're with. Time and attention are precious, we don't have a lot of it. It's the opposite of additive, it's the scarcest thing in the world, because attention and time are the only thing you cannot make more of. Every moment spent on following trends, liking dog pictures, getting that additional hit of dopamine from getting some more followers or a notification alert is a signal that disrupts focus and draws your mind away from relationships or things that matter. >unique communities and opportunities that only exits on the established social media platforms. An opportunity that only exists on a social media platform and is intermediated by some third party is terrible and takes agency and control away from you. You can do a business without social media, you can find subcultures and local communities in almost all places on the planet, where you can make real and lasting connections rather than superficial digital ones.
- standardUser 6y ago
  "okay I'll invite you the next time you're at a bar or cafe to pay close attention to how many people look at their phone instead of focusing on the person they're with." That seems like a personal problem you are trying to hoist on to me. If my friends engage in behavior I don't like I can tell them, or find different friends. But for me, this is rarely a problem. "...a signal that disrupts focus and draws your mind away from relationships or things that matter." Again, you seem determined to tell me what should matter to me, which will get you nowhere and seems like an oddly invasive way to engage with someone. As for your last comment, I don't think you read my other comment as I suggested. Some niche communities organize online. Sometimes that online space is an established company like Facebook. You could create an alternative or try to migrate the existing community, but first and foremost you must meet the community where it is. Or, you miss out on that community. Maybe it's fine for some hobby you can take or leave. Maybe it's more difficult if that community is for a rare medical condition, for example.

Barrin92 6y ago

>nor does it detract from other relationships okay I'll invite you the next time you're at a bar or cafe to pay close attention to how many people look at their phone instead of focusing on the person they're with. Time and attention are precious, we don't have a lot of it. It's the opposite of additive, it's the scarcest thing in the world, because attention and time are the only thing you cannot make more of. Every moment spent on following trends, liking dog pictures, getting that additional hit of dopamine from getting some more followers or a notification alert is a signal that disrupts focus and draws your mind away from relationships or things that matter. >unique communities and opportunities that only exits on the established social media platforms. An opportunity that only exists on a social media platform and is intermediated by some third party is terrible and takes agency and control away from you. You can do a business without social media, you can find subcultures and local communities in almost all places on the planet, where you can make real and lasting connections rather than superficial digital ones.

standardUser 6y ago
"okay I'll invite you the next time you're at a bar or cafe to pay close attention to how many people look at their phone instead of focusing on the person they're with." That seems like a personal problem you are trying to hoist on to me. If my friends engage in behavior I don't like I can tell them, or find different friends. But for me, this is rarely a problem. "...a signal that disrupts focus and draws your mind away from relationships or things that matter." Again, you seem determined to tell me what should matter to me, which will get you nowhere and seems like an oddly invasive way to engage with someone. As for your last comment, I don't think you read my other comment as I suggested. Some niche communities organize online. Sometimes that online space is an established company like Facebook. You could create an alternative or try to migrate the existing community, but first and foremost you must meet the community where it is. Or, you miss out on that community. Maybe it's fine for some hobby you can take or leave. Maybe it's more difficult if that community is for a rare medical condition, for example.