Your wife is one thing and understandable because she's (presumably) not a full time feminist advocate. But I still routinely see this claim be made by e.g. jou

Your wife is one thing and understandable because she's (presumably) not a full time feminist advocate. But I still routinely see this claim be made by e.g. journalists who have been writing about feminism their entire careers, or people who appear to be spending most of their time on such advocacy. Those people either know, or they are so dumb they never had the obvious thought that occurred immediately to your wife. I don't think they're dumb as they're normally quite eloquent, they just don't want to lose that powerful talking point.