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Here is some relationship advice to all the young guys here. It is not only some theory, this is painful experience of real life. If there would be no women, w

Here is some relationship advice to all the young guys here. It is not only some theory, this is painful experience of real life. If there would be no women, we would all still be hunter gatherers. Hunting for a small bit of the day, and for the rest doing nothing and sitting in the tree. If you put women into the equation, they want a roof over their head. So they pick a partner who can provide that. So now we all work a bit extra to get the roof. But now the most wanted woman is most interested in the guy with the biggest roof. So now there is a competition. Women picking the most capable guys. Now the race is on. If you think the modern women think differently now, you are very wrong. Now, after this story, you might think I am a very sexist person. But you think wrong. I took care of my 3 kids during my fulltime job, while my wife was constantly on business trips. I love taking care of my kids, I help out in the household, etc. I am what they call a "new/modern man". But don't think that any women has any respect for a guy that is not a "real man", getting ahead of all the others. If she thinks you are a lazy loser, she will make the jump.

z77dj3kl 6y ago
This would probably come across better if you didn't phrase it in terms of genders (assuming you believe it's not a gendered phenomenon). I'm sure a majority of people choose a partner largely based on their status and achievements (whatever metrics they use for that).
- koonsolo 6y ago
  My wife is a relationship coach, and what women want in a partner is very different than what men want. To keep it short, men want "pretty", women want "successful". You cannot just discard evolution and biological differences when it comes down to partner preferences. I believe in gender equality, and gender differences. Both can coexist.
istjohn 6y ago
The world isn't that simple. It also seems a little self-serving to lay the blame for materialism at the feet of women. Someone else might argue capitalism is just a testosterone fueled pissing contest, men competing to see who has the largest...bank account. Both accounts are reductive and wrong.
- koonsolo 6y ago
  You are right that I painted an extreme view here, and reality is definitely more nuanced. But I hope I made my point that women are attracted to successful men. And if you don't belong in that group (anymore), they will quickly lose interest.

z77dj3kl 6y ago

This would probably come across better if you didn't phrase it in terms of genders (assuming you believe it's not a gendered phenomenon). I'm sure a majority of people choose a partner largely based on their status and achievements (whatever metrics they use for that).

koonsolo 6y ago
My wife is a relationship coach, and what women want in a partner is very different than what men want. To keep it short, men want "pretty", women want "successful". You cannot just discard evolution and biological differences when it comes down to partner preferences. I believe in gender equality, and gender differences. Both can coexist.

istjohn 6y ago

The world isn't that simple. It also seems a little self-serving to lay the blame for materialism at the feet of women. Someone else might argue capitalism is just a testosterone fueled pissing contest, men competing to see who has the largest...bank account. Both accounts are reductive and wrong.

koonsolo 6y ago
You are right that I painted an extreme view here, and reality is definitely more nuanced. But I hope I made my point that women are attracted to successful men. And if you don't belong in that group (anymore), they will quickly lose interest.