As a somewhat aside; the author points to something about finding therapy that I think most people don't understand which is: you need to find a therapist you c

As a somewhat aside; the author points to something about finding therapy that I think most people don't understand which is: you need to find a therapist you connect with and usually you have to see a few before you will find one. It's not like you're finding a life partner, by any means. Just someone who you feel like you can make a connection with, who understands what you're going through, and can speak to you in a way that you can understand. I, for example, found a great therapist on my second try. He helped me tremendously but then happened to decide to retire right around when I felt like I didn't need to see him as much anymore. However, he recommended a colleague who he thought I would do well with who I have seen a couple of times since and it has worked out very well.