The norms around dating in liberal America have completely diverged from the ground reality. Statistically, you are 3x as likely to meet your future spouse in

The norms around dating in liberal America have completely diverged from the ground reality. Statistically, you are 3x as likely to meet your future spouse in the workplace than a bar/club.[1] Let's take a look at the stereotypical man in STEM: * Looks: Below 80 %ile --> Failure at Tinder[2] * Socially: Below average --> No romantically successful friends groups to set them up * Early life: Never cool in school / male dominant peer group --> Still single by the time they graduate This massively raises the stakes of a workplace romantic encounter, because every other avenue has already been shut in their face. At this point, "it's only harassment if you are undesirable" is a well known anecdote. So, uncharismatic + unattractive men are basically doomed. The alternative is to fully acknowledge the brutally objectifying nature of it all, objectify yourself and go for obnoxious outward displays of desirability. Ie. "look expensive" and target demographics that value your ability to be gainfully employed and accumulate moderate wealth. The harder alternative is to hit the gym, learn social skills and actually learn how to be charismatic. This is way harder, especially when society actively ostracizes you. Like trying to make a fish climb a tree. [1] https://www.pnas.org/content/110/25/10135 https://www.pnas.org/content/110/25/10135 [2] https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-guys-unless-you-are-really-hot-you-are-probably-better-off-not-wasting-your-2ddf370a6e9a https://medium.com/@worstonlinedater/tinder-experiments-ii-g...