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Age of consent is seriously tricky business. And I think that's in part because it's really two things which are muddled together: young people having sex with
by elric 6y ago
Age of consent is seriously tricky business. And I think that's in part because it's really two things which are muddled together: young people having sex with each other; and older people having sex with younger people.
It is absolutely fine for young people to consent to having sex with other young people. A minimum age makes little sense there. Very young kids do stupid things all the time, including touching each other's genitals. By some definitions, if two toddlers "play doctor", the older one is somehow a criminal. That seems insane. I remember being 14 and doing sexual things with my 15 year old girlfriend. At that point we were both falling foul of the law. But once she turned 16, she was suddenly a pedophile and a stutory rapist because I was only 15? Again, that seems insane.
Then there's the issue of older people having sexual relations with younger people. This is where things become a lot more complex. It's pretty clear that it's inappropriate when authority figures are involved (e.g. teacher and underaged student). But then that can be inappropriate regardless of age. I can't imagine 14 year old me having been sexually interested in anyone over the age of 30, but that seems entirely arbitrary and subject to taste. I can certainly imagine 14 year old me thinking that my sex life wasn't anyone else's business. Some 14 year olds are more mature than some 18 year olds. Yet the former somehow can't consent to anything, but the latter can consent to sex with anyone aged 16-120+?
Age is a pretty good proxy for maturity on a population scale, but it's a really lousy proxy on an individual level. Perhaps we, as a society, would do well to remember that individual differences can be huge, and that consent is more important than merely the age.
- gwd 6y ago> Age of consent is seriously tricky business. Right, and I carefully worded what I said about it to try to avoid expressing any opinion on the subject. :-)
- elric 6y agoOh I wasn't trying to refute your statement or anything, I was merely trying to expand on the whole Age Of Consent business. Sorry if this came across in that way.
- sseagull 6y ago> But once she turned 16, she was suddenly a pedophile and a stutory rapist because I was only 15? Again, that seems insane. After some high-profile cases (usually involving minorities and disapproving parents), some states in the US have corrected this via "Romeo and Juliet Laws". (Had to look into this due to having a bit younger girlfriend right around that age) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Statutory_rape#Romeo_and_Juliet_laws https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Statutory_rape#Romeo_and_Julie...
- gwd 6y agoI had the misfortune to let my self get sucked into an argument which required me to comb through the California laws on this topic. The laws seemed to me to be a reasonable attempt at a balance.