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As an anecdotal datapoint, let's throw down my selling on paper (believe me or not, it's alright): - I'm a 43 old white dude who looks 35. No kids, no smoking,

As an anecdotal datapoint, let's throw down my selling on paper (believe me or not, it's alright): - I'm a 43 old white dude who looks 35. No kids, no smoking, little drinking, blood donor, roughly vegetarian who can shoot a hair off an ant's head at 25 yards. - I make ~$500k but I never mention it. I've been middle-class, poor, and relatively comfortable. I have a much wider range of life experiences than the average office worker. - I was affiliated with a big name university and could've done a PhD if there wasn't a specific economic disincentive to do so. (Many moons ago, I was offered a dark matter research assistant job at 15.) - I ride around on a pimped-out, overpowered scooter that can drag race most motorcycles and supercars, go almost fast enough to go on the highway, and semi-blast quality music. - I have a big-ass, bitchin' apartment that somewhat matches my personality. It needs interior decorating and plants. - I read big, meaty titles in history, literature, economics, philosophy, and psychology, but not much pop fiction. - I fly powered paragliders (PPG), cook well, and am cleaner (not OCD), more domesticated, and DIY than most people. - I have a very unique, rare dog that is visually-striking. - I'm center basketball-player tall. - I'm about 8/10 to where women might communicate with me on OLD, but I don't because it's such a fake, constrained, skewed, unnatural waste of time that doesn't spark actual chemistry. - Women generally enjoy my company and say I'm fun. I've had polygynous arrangements with bi/pan women. In that department, I have been around. - My confidence level is solid. Guess what? I can't find anyone I would date seriously. I basically gave up because they don't exist or are inaccessible. Women may throw themselves at me to sleep with them all the time (including pulling over to shout propositions at me from their cars), but they're not dating material. What I'm looking for in a woman: they have to be fit, any age legal (17) to 30, any ethnicity, any background, good habits, no kids, smart enough to complete an advanced degree, fun, sense of humor, sane, not entitled/bad attitude, and honest. Being realistic, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever find someone to have kids with who I could remotely respect. I might as well get over it even if it makes me sad and lonely.

bluefirebrand 6y ago
> Being realistic, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever find someone to have kids with who I could remotely respect This right here is your problem. All of that stuff you listed before does not matter at all compared to this implication that you don't remotely respect women who don't meet your exact list of requirements. That's a huge attitude problem and a major red flag. Women who meet your laundry list of requirements are going to notice and avoid you.
- doggodaddo78 6y ago
  Typical ungracious, taking things to extremes toxic judgement from a hater. Maybe you shouldn't comment if you don't have anything constructive to say. Good luck to you.
jfengel 6y ago
Limiting yourself to women 13 to 26 years younger than yourself is going to be a problem. Most women aren't even going to consider having children until they're in their late 20s at the earliest. In practice, you've narrowed your range to perhaps 3 or 4 year age gap... and of women who are willing to date more than a decade their senior. You're looking for somebody who could potentially have a lot of ambition, but wants instead to spend their 20s raising kids. There's nothing wrong with that, and it's not that it doesn't exist. It's just that it sounds to me like it could easily raise red flags, and scare off a lot of women from an already narrow pool you've defined. If you were to raise your age limit just to 35 you might have more luck.

bluefirebrand 6y ago

> Being realistic, it is extremely unlikely that I will ever find someone to have kids with who I could remotely respect This right here is your problem. All of that stuff you listed before does not matter at all compared to this implication that you don't remotely respect women who don't meet your exact list of requirements. That's a huge attitude problem and a major red flag. Women who meet your laundry list of requirements are going to notice and avoid you.

doggodaddo78 6y ago
Typical ungracious, taking things to extremes toxic judgement from a hater. Maybe you shouldn't comment if you don't have anything constructive to say. Good luck to you.

jfengel 6y ago

Limiting yourself to women 13 to 26 years younger than yourself is going to be a problem. Most women aren't even going to consider having children until they're in their late 20s at the earliest. In practice, you've narrowed your range to perhaps 3 or 4 year age gap... and of women who are willing to date more than a decade their senior. You're looking for somebody who could potentially have a lot of ambition, but wants instead to spend their 20s raising kids. There's nothing wrong with that, and it's not that it doesn't exist. It's just that it sounds to me like it could easily raise red flags, and scare off a lot of women from an already narrow pool you've defined. If you were to raise your age limit just to 35 you might have more luck.