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> The worst is when you start making suggestions after listening to two sentences. If you assume that the other person is as intelligent as you are, then someth
by altgans 6y ago
> The worst is when you start making suggestions after listening to two sentences. If you assume that the other person is as intelligent as you are, then something you came up with after two minutes of listening is not useful -- they have probably considered this already.
I disagree. This has nothing to do with intelligence. It is all about connecting different domains of knowledge. You know and have experienced things they haven't.
Now you listen to their description of the problem, and transfer it to your domain of knowledge:
"Hey, this sounds exactly like an issue my friend Josh had a few weeks ago."
This is also why stories of the "king asking the farmer" or "CEO asking the cleaning lady" are so common --- it is all about the point of view.
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Where I agree with you is "listen first, speak later". Don't interrupt until they have finished telling their story.
- loopz 6y agoThe unintelligent part is assuming you got enough context in 2 minutes to start making suggestions. You end up breaking discovery process for the other person. It can help to frame it as questions and curiosity instead.
- sakawa 6y ago> You know and have experienced things they haven't. They also know and have experienced things you haven't. I'd say that listen their description of the problem is the first (and maybe easy) part. But then you don't have to provide your solution, but rather find it together with that person. Treating the other person as intelligent as you helps sharing the problem solving part instead of doing it individually.