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I've probably interviewed more than 1000 people in the tech industry over the course of 25 years. Some of those interviews were conducted while I was a CTO, a c
by buffington 6y ago
I've probably interviewed more than 1000 people in the tech industry over the course of 25 years. Some of those interviews were conducted while I was a CTO, a cofounder, or high level exec within a company.
Here are some things that might be comforting for you to hear. They're from my perspective only, so bear that in mind:
I've never seen a "don't hire this person" list, or anything remotely equivalent.
The only way I'd know about a candidate's reputation is if I either knew that candidate personally, or through a friend already, or if you told me you had one.
I've never once asked someone about mental health, just like I haven't asked about age, gender, religion, if they have kids, if they're married, who they want to love, where they grew up, etc.
Knowing about someone's mental health isn't relevant to the interview process - at least not for the roles I hire. Even if I knew, I wouldn't disqualify someone due to mental health challenges. Everyone experiences those challenges, either directly or indirectly. It's part of being a human being living in a community of other human beings. It's also illegal in a lot of states/countries to disqualify a candidate because of previous, current, or predicted mental health struggles.
Reading your answers to other comments, here's what I'd recommend:
You don't need to qualify or describe why you have any gaps in employment. If someone asks, it's because they're wanting to determine if you have gaps because you weren't, in their minds, hirable. It's faulty logic, but it's likely why they ask.
If asked you can simply say: "I took a break."
If prodded for more details as to why, you can stop the prodding with "I wanted to focus on my health."
Any interviewer should know that's a dead end. They cannot dig deeper. They have to move on. If they don't and decide to pry still you can simply say "look, I'm aware that you feel it's important, but it's not, and it might also be illegal to ask. Can we move on?"
If that doesn't give them the hint, you don't want to work there.
- 2rsf 6y ago> I've never seen a "don't hire this person" list, or anything remotely equivalent. Same here, TBH who would bother publicizing names of regular engineers? it's probably illegal, immoral and can't be kept secret for long. > If asked you can simply say: "I took a break." Or be semi-honest and say you took a break due to stress or other mental issue, most interviewers won't ask or care more and those who do- you don't want to work for.
- buffington 6y agoSaying "I took a break due to stress or other mental issues" isn't semi-honest - it's simply true. Personally, I think it's still worth avoiding. It's similar to how, at least in the US, saying "I'll be out next Thursday" is much better than saying "I'll be out next Thursday because I'm feeling burnt out and need to take a breather so I don't lose it." I think it's natural to want to explain yourself. It feels courteous even. But it can often motivate people to form opinions about you that don't benefit you, and are probably not accurate anyways. Consider a scenario where a team member is gone 1 day out of every month. They don't say why, aside from "taking a personal day." Compare that to someone who takes the same amount of time off, but explains the reason for each. "I've been working too hard", "need to take my dog to the vet", "can't work today because I'm barfing", and so on. The "explainer" may be just as productive as the person who doesn't explain, yet, over time, the explainer might end up being perceived as having a lot of "drama", or "frail" or even unreliable. I'm not just imagining that this can happen either. I've seen these kinds of things considered when managers review an employee's performance. The "non-explainer" taking time off is often not even noticed compared to the "explainer". It's unfortunate, and shouldn't matter, but humans are strange creatures.