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Totally normal! The thing that worked most for me was not forcing myself to do something just because I think I should do it. Theres loads of things I want to
by apricot13 6y ago
Totally normal!
The thing that worked most for me was not forcing myself to do something just because I think I should do it. Theres loads of things I want to do, read books, work on side projects, learn something new and play games.
Accepting that I just don't have the energy to do all the things I want to do and to forgive myself for the guilt of not doing them. The minute I started (started - I'm not there yet!) I found I was actually doing more of those things because I'd taken the pressure off.
I've basically decided to do what I feel like when I have spare time and to not seek perfection. Working on a side project recently and releasing it (to my mind unfinished) was a challenge but because of that that project exists and isn't on my list anymore. It had been on there for over two years.
I also go to a lot of effort to prepare the tasks for myself for if the mood strikes but I don't have that initial setup energy. I might not want to read a book now but I can decide which book or game will come next when that time comes. It reduces the cognitive load and decision fatigue.
Same with learning something new I have a list of things to learn and timeboxing in a small topic to an hour lets me complete the task and feel some accomplishment. Theres also that thing where if you leave a task unfinished you're more motivated to finish it another time - but that just makes me get up at 2am and go finish it..your mileage may vary.
Another good thing to do is use an app like toggle to track where your hours go. I found I only really get 4 really good hours of concentration in a day so I optimise my day to do those 4 exceptional hours of work and then the other 4 I spend preparing for the next 4 hours of focus work. If I force myself to spend 8 hours working I just don't do a good enough job and I end up burnt out.
I very rarely find myself watching tv anymore I realised how much stress it was adding to my life. During lockdown I've stopped watching new series and instead stick to the same few series that I know don't have any of those stressful cliffhangers which will make me watch for hours on end. I also only watch tv if I'm certain my brain is mush but I'm not sleepy. If I'm sleepy I will go to bed, maybe I'll put on an audiobook but mostly I just (aim to) go to sleep.
also - write everything down - have a list of everythingggg and review it often. your brain is for thinking and doing not storing information!