It's interesting that you mention the "who am I related to" aspect, because Geni.com is exactly that. After altercations with unhinged second cousins-once-remov

It's interesting that you mention the "who am I related to" aspect, because Geni.com is exactly that. After altercations with unhinged second cousins-once-removed and unpleasant uncles, I set privacy to maximum and abandoned Geni (Geni's habit of spamming people who you added also led to a few unpleasant encounters at family reunions). The family tree idea was good, but the social aspect turned out to be unpleasant. Some of the same relatives are friends on Facebook, and it is much more pleasant experience, because they are nominal "friends", but are in a high privacy group, so we don't have much opportunity to interact.