Self employed people aren't disconnected from society though, they don't "work for themselves", they still need to offer something that others consider to have

Self employed people aren't disconnected from society though, they don't "work for themselves", they still need to offer something that others consider to have value. I don't think we want parenting to be judged in that regard, it does very much change the relationship between the individual and the state (and not in a good way imho).